Enjoying Being Single

When women claim that they are enjoying being single, do believe them. According to a report, middle aged singles of age 45 -59 are the ones who take the most pleasure with their single status. This is because they are often financially and emotionally secure. They lead a well rounded and independent lifestyle. They've got used to doing things that don't require company.

Younger women who are single and loving it have learned to survive and cope with the single life. They are not closed off from a relationship. Most of them do date. It's just that they don't want to get tied down, at least until they are ready to get serious.

Are You Enjoying Being Single?

  1. What and where is your focus?

    What and where is your focus? Do you only see happy couples and wish you were them and fantasizing about being in a relationship? If this is what you are focusing on, you aren't enjoying being single.

  2. How are you feeling?

    How are you feeling today? Are you sad and lonely? Are you bitter and angry with yourself, your ex and everyone else? Do you mope and wish that he's with you? Do you sit home and plan for a revenge? If all these apply, you aren't over it yet and definitely not a happy single woman.

  3. You can't wait to date again or to find someone to fill the void.

    This is another sign that you aren't enjoying being single and don't find the single life fascinating. And if you start thinking of being in a serious relationship with any guy who show interest in you, it indicates that you don't like being on your own and can't wait to be in a relationship.

How to Stay Single. Learning to Enjoy It

Divert your attention.

Connect with other unmarried women, find a satisfying job, or get engrossed in something you are passionate about and learn to love yourself. Think about what you want other than a partner. Explore your potentials and challenge yourself to go far. Do things that you haven't tried but want to.

Release and let go.

Release your negative related feelings. One effective way is to write down your thoughts and emotions and do this daily. Another way is to use the questioning technique. Ask yourself questions like...

  1. What am I feeling right now?

  2. What do I want to feel right now?

  3. What am I happy about in my life right now?

  4. What am I proud about?

  5. When will I let these feelings go?

You can also learn to relax your body and mind through meditation, yoga or deep breathing. Here's a simple breathing exercise.

  1. Sit straight or lie down flat with your hands by your side.

  2. Take in a deep breath through your nose and from your stomach. Feel your stomach rising.

  3. Hold your breath for a few seconds.

  4. Exhale through your mouth.

Repeat this breathing exercise several times. During your moment of solitude, do some soul searching and get to know yourself. Find out what it is that you are afraid of and why you are not enjoying being single. Think of where you are heading next.

Set new goals.

List down what you want to have, do and become. What skills do you want to learn? What fun things do you want to do? How much do you want to earn? Which country do you want to visit? Write down the reasons why you want them. Then list down what you can do immediately to move toward your goals. Now you have something else to focus on and this will keep you occupied and energized.

Move your body.

Get physical. One of the ways to release your tension is to hit, kick or shout. Go out and play games that allow you to do this and make you sweat. If you'd rather not do it, take brisk walks every day, if the weather permits. You will not only become more healthy but relaxed. Sometimes during this walks, you get some inspiration.

Get into shape.

If you are overweighed or out of shape, start working out and pay attention on your diet and eating habits. If you can afford it, register at a gym and pay for a personal trainer.

Get a makeover.

There is nothing wrong with the way you look. But a makeover like changing your hair style or color does help make you look different and better. When you look good, you'll feel good about yourself.

Spend time in leisurely pursuits.

There's photography, writing, outdoor activities, cooking, gardening, volunteering, etc. The list is endless. How about furthering your education? Even if you aren't that ambitious, you can learn a new skill that you can put to good use. You'll become more marketable. You'll start enjoying being single the more time you spend in your leisurely pursuits.

Stay connected.

Keep the bond with your nuclear family. Stay connected with your selected friends who love life and living it to the fullest. When you keep this links, you won't be affected by the holiday blues and the highly commercialized Valentine's Day.

Be house proud.

Women in general enjoy returning to their homes and personal space. Get your home organized and decorated to your own taste and preference. Fill it with everything that you need that makes you feel comfortable and proud. If you like to entertain, invite friends over for lunch or dinner.

Learn to manage your money.

Get one of the most troubling issues out of the way. Learn to manage your money and budget your expenses. When you are financially stable, you have less to worry about and can be more productive and creative.

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