Dealing with Rejection

Dealing with rejection is frustrating. It hurts when you indicate that you are interested to get to know someone and he ignores you. Sometimes you might receive a "No, thanks," but in most cases without a hint or a word. He expects you to get the message.

The first thing to do to handle a rejection is to reframe your thinking. Instead of believing that you are being rejected, acknowledge that everyone has different needs, wants and expectations. Put yourself in his shoes. You too have certain needs and standards that you stick to based on your personal values and rules. Once you can look at it this way, it's easy for you to move on.

If you keep getting refusals and negative responses, soon enough you'll develop the fear of rejection. Feeling rejected will cause your self-esteem to plummet. You'll stop dating online or in real life because you believe that you aren't good enough, smart enough, etc.

So when dealing with rejection that occurs too often, it's advisable that you do some self-examination.

What you can do is try to find some common factors on why the rejections occurred. Ask yourself questions like were you appearing needy, desperate, pushy, aloof or narcissistic. Did you self-sabotage yourself? Sometimes, without you realizing it, you say or do things to drive people away because deep within you there is an issue that you haven't solved.

When it comes to dating online and you haven't received or are getting very few responses through your dating profile, maybe you should take a look at it and see if you can make some improvements. You can get some tips for writing a great online dating profile here.

And when someone suddenly stops responding to your emails or messages, don't assume that he has rejected you. He may have his own issues to deal with which he might not want to share with you. There's no point sulking about it. Move on with your life.

When you don't get what you aim for the first time, second or so forth, it's not a failure but a feedback. Just like going for any other goals in life, to succeed in dating, you must try many times and different things.

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